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Don’t Fear Public Speaking! Presentation Skills Training Can Be Fun

Why Fear Public Speaking When

Presentation Skills Training Can Be Fun?

public speaking fear, confident public speaking, presentation skills, presentation technique, soft skillsMany of us fear public speaking worse than death. Yet, confident public speaking is not that hard to achieve if you are willing to practice some basic presentation training skills. Just like learning to walk, the more you practice, the better you get and the more fun you can have.

Over 20 years of experience has demonstrated that most of us know basic presentation technique pretty well. Also, the more we relax into service, the easier speaking in front of others becomes. Could these two observations signal a fundamental connection between relaxing, service and confident public speaking?

For most of us, speaking in front of others increases stress. We become tense, breathe less and start thinking about the worst that can happen. We lose contact with our audience and ultimately confirm our worst suspicions about our ability to present. The more we think about our precarious situation we have now unconsciously created, the more we doom ourselves to being correct about why we fear speaking in public. Crazy!

What if the most powerful step in mastering public speaking is both one of the simplest and ironically one of the easiest to avoid or forget?

Serving others versus performing for yourself

You’re presentation skills will drastically improve the more you focus upon serving your listeners rather than performing for yourself. The first step is to become present to your listeners and their needs, wants and wishes. Instead of being in the distant, dark reaches of your head listening to the little voice of your own ego, ask yourself:

    • Does that little voice care at all about serving others or is its goal making sure you perform in a way that further justifies its existence?
    • If all your energy is focused upon your own dark thoughts, how inspiring and engaging are you and your message going to be?
    • Moreover, have you ever noticed that little voice in your head is not always your best friend?
    • Not only that, if that little voice is actually you, then who is listening?


Ego thrives on performance.

Start paying closer attention to ego’s message and you will discover that it often has to do with separation and comparison. For instance, ”Do they like me?”, ”I could have said that better.”, ”I should have worn another color today.” and ”They just don’t understand!”. Listen closely and you will find that most if not all of this conversation has to do with measuring your performance against some perfect mental picture. Your little voice is an expert on what you are doing or saying wrong and the more you listen to it, the more you lose touch with your present reality. This of course insures more stress. More stress causes more disconnect and pretty much insures your perceived failure as a public speaker. What is there to do?

Service, your key to success and the antithesis to egotistical performance demands

Pure service is transparent. The more you disappear into serving someone else, the less focus and energy goes towards you and your little voice. You come out of those deep dark thoughts and into the light of service and success. You connect. The more you can practice serving others by catering to their listening the more you will master ”moving” them into action towards your intended result. Here are some more tips:

  • Get present. The more you can actively practice being here, now, the more you will be open to connecting with what is going on around you. To help accomplish this, the more you dare to feel, the more present you are likely to become.
  • Breathe in an inspiring manner. Most of us take in just enough air to survive to our next breath. How inspiring is that? Inspire comes from Latin and means to breathe in spirit. What if the deeper you breathe, the more you feel and the more inspiring you become?
  • The less tense you become the more you will enter into the flow of life around you. Making every deep breath a joy will help.
  • Listen with all your senses from a platform of service. Then relax and look closely into your listeners’ eyes with curiosity and an intention to serve them. Focus on discovering what is still missing in your message to allow them more space and energy for understanding and action.
  • Reflect and respond with the appropriate words and conscious body language to help promote their understanding regardless of what your little voice thinks.


Whether you are a beginner or an expert public speaker, standing for and speaking from a platform of service will give you more power and leverage to deliver your message. The more present you are to serving, the less energy, focus and stress your ego will steal from you and your message. Your nervousness and fear of failure will lose their grip and your confident public speaking abilities will rise to the surface. You may even enjoy yourself!

Interested in finding out more about the power of service in public speaking?

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About The Author


I am fascinated with what makes us humans ”tick”, especially when it comes to how we consciously communicate and express ourselves with our body language. My business background is in international sales and sales management, selling everything from automobile tires in Houston, Tx, to retail banking delivery systems in 20 countries. I have graduated from CoachU’s 3 year Coach Training program, been certified as an Extended DISC consultant and become a Certified International Body Harmony Teacher with over 20 years of ”hands-on” experience in bodywork. This rich and varied background combined with over 20 years of being an entrepreneur has blessed me with insights and experiences I never would have noticed in the corporate world. Mainstream business now seems to be waking up to the riches available from more conscious and responsible business practices. Expanding Understanding’s Sensational Soft Skills Toolbox , the books I have written and training I have developed now provide savvy decision makers and their colleagues measurable results and a more restful night's sleep. These tools provide an edge in consciously understanding, deliberately using and profiting from the most powerful communication tool available, our bodies. I look forward to meeting you on this path to mastery in non verbal communication.

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