Heads Up!

When it comes to posture the position of you head is a ”top priority”.

Leading people can be done while stooping over, but it is much easier to follow than lead from there. Regardless, how many people you know look like they are conscious of how they position their head?

One of the topics we will be returning to often is that leadership and presentation skill is as much about ”being” a leader as it is about doing leadership things, perhaps even more. Just as a lightning rod ”leads” electricity from the sky safely to its final destination (ground) just by being the tallest, most attractive target around so it goes with leading other people and directing their energy.

See if you agree that the straighter your posture, the more attractive you become. One of the reasons for this seems to be that the higher you hold your head the easier it is to feel better. Coming back to another theme, what if you are then generating a more attractive frequency to those in your surroundings? You are encouraged to test this with a trick first shown to me by the late, great Patrick Collard:

  1. Close your eyes
  2. Stand or sit upright using the laws of gravity to your advantage
  3. Bring your head forward slowly. Keep moving it forward and downward while noticing how your neck and throat muscles feel.
  4. Bring it down so your chin is almost touching your chest. Start slowly back up again.
  5. Keep tilting back right through the vertical and pay close attention to the point where it feels like your head is just resting on your shoulders. It will not feel like it is hanging forward and will not feel like it will roll down your back. As Goldilocks once said it will feel ”just right”.
  6. Continue until you head feels like it really is going to roll down, off your back and then slowly come forward with it again to that ”just right”, balance point where you feel no tension forward or backward.
  7. Open you eyes and notice how you feel.

You will probably feel lighter. You are now saving all that energy you usually expend to fight the earth’s gravitational pull while holding your head at an angle. What you are feeling now is the feeling of ease and efficiency. Enjoyment is sure to follow, but usually only after you give up missing the way ”it used to feel”. You may also notice you feel happier as this position for most of us hasn’t been used since we first learned to stand upright and walk. This is interesting as now it has been proven that each cell has the capacity for both memory and communication. Think back to when you first stood up or walked. If you cannot remember back that far just observe some children that are now going through that phase.

Do they hold their heads upright and in line with gravity?
Do they seem feel the love and support of those helping them to learn to walk?
Do they look happy?
Do they seem feel the love and support of those helping them to learn to walk?
Do they take life a bit less seriously?
Do they attract you?
Could there be a link here?

In practice this little exercise has produced amazing results. Many people have experienced an immediate positive effect from adjusting where they hold their head. One particular lady that had worked for years in Hospice practically danced out of a workshop after allowing us to coach her through this exercise.

This was a very kind and open lady that, for her entire career, has been leaning forward and lowering her head to convey respect for and listen closely to yet another tragedy unfolding before her. Proof that cells have memory showed up as she shared her story.

The more she talked, the more she began to ”shrink” into the pose that she normally (unconsciously/habitually?) assumed when talking with her patients. The more she did this the more her head began to hang forward and the more tears began to well up in her eyes. Yet, in the middle of her moving story she was ”here and now” enough to receive and test the above exercise.

When she finally opened her eyes, red and teary though they still were, they were bright, shiny and lit up the room with joy. Her first words upon opening her eyes were ”I’m not sad anymore… I’M NOT SAD ANYMORE”. The transformation was amazing. This is also a brilliant example of leading here and now as the atmosphere in the room as well as everyone’s in it changed. And… there were no side effects.

So may I leave you with an invitation to test holding your head up in this manner and observing how it makes you feel as well as how it influences the way others feel around you. Now, for the most important question. What will you use all that extra energy for that you used to expend by holding your head at an angle?

If this subject is of interest and you are in the Stockholm area in June you are invited to attend the next Body Harmony Workshop. Please follow this link for more information.

See you there!


Little of what is written here is the truth and very little of the contents are purely original, only the presentation thereof. Yet the results produced by applying these tools and tips have been great to magical. The interpretations and musings posted here are offered with the intention and in the spirit of inspiring you to be more curious, to listen with all your senses, to reflect and understand your fellow man just a bit more; then to excel at whatever you do that makes our world better.

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About The Author


I am fascinated with what makes us humans ”tick”, especially when it comes to how we consciously communicate and express ourselves with our body language. My business background is in international sales and sales management, selling everything from automobile tires in Houston, Tx, to retail banking delivery systems in 20 countries. I have graduated from CoachU’s 3 year Coach Training program, been certified as an Extended DISC consultant and become a Certified International Body Harmony Teacher with over 20 years of ”hands-on” experience in bodywork. This rich and varied background combined with over 20 years of being an entrepreneur has blessed me with insights and experiences I never would have noticed in the corporate world. Mainstream business now seems to be waking up to the riches available from more conscious and responsible business practices. Expanding Understanding’s Sensational Soft Skills Toolbox , the books I have written and training I have developed now provide savvy decision makers and their colleagues measurable results and a more restful night's sleep. These tools provide an edge in consciously understanding, deliberately using and profiting from the most powerful communication tool available, our bodies. I look forward to meeting you on this path to mastery in non verbal communication.

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