Non-Intrusive acceptance, By Kurt Larsson

Non-intrusiveness starts with you and your touch

Non-intrusiveness starts with you and your touch

Non-Intrusive acceptance, By Kurt Larsson

Another key factor which distinguishes Body Harmony® from many other forms of bodywork is its non-intrusiveness. Great results come from a practitioner’s ability to invite and suggest how to explore even more deeply regarding ”The Issue in The Tissue”. The more you gain your client’s trust and acceptance the more they can and will relax,  allowing their bodies open up to your suggestions. The more you train to dance with this Sensational Soft Skill of non-intrusiveness, the more many of your client’s boundaries will cease to be necessary and the easier, more efficient and enjoyable the session and their life can become.

Does anyone like finding out that there is an intruder in their home? According to the Oxford Dictionary Intrude comes from the Latin ”Intrudére” which means to ”thrust in”. Whether it is thrusting into someone’s home, body, wallet or even conversation it is a behavior that most conscious human beings can easily do without. Through the practice of Body Harmony® it becomes very clear that if you want to destroy a good session, just ”thrust in” your will and your hands where they are not welcome. If you instead want to have a magical session, softly listen, suggest, invite and learn quickly where his/her elusive and constantly changing barriers to intrusion are located.

Many Forms of intrusion:

We are currently living through an era of unprecedented intrusive behavior. Below are some suggestions to open the door for your own conscious exploration of how many ways there are to intrude upon others. Obviously most forms of criminal activity qualify such as: murder, theft, rape, fraud, etc. But what about:

  • Crushing someone else’s hand with a vice grip handshake
  • Barging into the middle of an ongoing conversation
  • Insulting or embarrassing someone in front of others for the “fun” of it
  • Obliging someone to do something for you out of guilt or peer pressure
  • Holding someone hostage in a conversation they would rather exit
  • Making students memorize ”facts” without openly discussing their origins or validity via the risk of failure
  • Giving a ”firm” massage citing ”no pain, no gain”.
  • Forcing you to sign up for a year’s subscription even though you only want or need one month’s worth.
  • Legislating something for the benefit of a few at the expense of the rest
  • Using the threat of violence to make people comply with an unpopular law
  • Garnering taxes using the threat of violence or incarceration
  • Monitoring someone else’s actions via their phone conversations and e-mails, by tracking their movements and behaviors with cameras and drones


These are just meant to provide a taste of some of the different ways we are currently being intruded upon in many cases without even realizing it. When someone intrudes upon your physical body by compressing it, the intrusion becomes fairly obvious. Now, think of how compressed all these other forms of intrusion make you feel, even the conversational ones. What would it be to live in a world where people stopped constantly trying to intrude upon you and compress your integrity and ability to feel free? A world where everyone was brought up to support and nurture you to open up and be the best you could be?

Getting from here to there is going to take some conscious effort. In fact, many still believe ”there ought to be yet another law for the good of us all” even though we are already the most legislated population of humans in the history of mankind. Did you know that Bananas must have a certain defined bend in them to be legal to import into the European Union?

”There is no innocent touch” Don Mcfarland

A good place to start is becoming aware of how you intrude upon others and the effect it has on their behavior.A common handshake or a pat on the back can be done both intrusively or non-intrusively. You surely have a old friend that loves nothing better than to grip your hand tightly, pull you off balance towards them and then give you a very stiff and uncomfortable bear hug. How conscious are they of how uncomfortable you feel? Notice how tense and defensive your body becomes when you see them coming towards you or even mention their name. They may even mean well, but are they getting closer or further away from you actually relaxing enough to be yourself around them?

With just a little consciousness, a few deep breaths and the application of some Sensational, soft, listening skills this whole situation could change and it may not even have to start with your ”bear hugger”. The more you can practice non-intrusiveness yourself and the more you can help others recognize their own intrusiveness maybe the more comfortable and supportive we can all become.

Body Harmony/Sensational Soft Skill practices which increase intrusion awareness:

  • Become more present. The best way to accomplish this is simply by feeling more. The more you feel your hand being crushed the more you can let out an audible scream that may just tip your friend off to their behavior.
  • Breath more: This will increase your presence by loosening up your body and allowing it to flow and communicate more with its surroundings. It will also give you a greater lung capacity to loudly express your discomfort should you feel intruded upon.
  • Remain Curious: The more open you are to the possibility of changing someone’s behavior, the more it will become possible to affect that change.
  • Sense more: Use your eyes, ears, nose, touch and intuition to get a more comprehensive understanding of what is happening around you and how those you are talking with are actually feeling.
  • Use Gravity: Feeling more anchored to Terra Firma will not only make you harder to push off balance it will also generate a greater confidence to express yourself.
  • Ask Questions; The deeper, more reflective and determined they are, the more you will be able to penetrate and affect someone’s ancient behavior patterns.
  • Respond more and react less. The more you don’t go into an old behavior pattern yourself but instead stay present and respond to your ”bear hugger”, the more you will cease to be the same old and expected target you have usually been.
  • Have fun: If you get too serious take a quick inventory of how much curiosity is still available. Then have a good laugh at it, open up once again and enjoy.


Regardless of whether or not you ever give someone else a bodywork session, by practicing the above tips you can use them every time you communicate with others, this will provide them more space to open up to you and maybe even to see and adjust their own intrusive behavior patterns.

Now, what if the less we intrude upon each other the less law enforcement we will need to keep the peace? We may even begin to question why so much money is being taxed and spent for a ”stronger” defense? What could we then do with those resources?

If this article inspires you to want to learn more about the art of non-intrusion, suggestion, invitation and acceptance, then you are welcome to read more about Body Harmony Here.

If you would like to gain access to your own Sensational Soft Skills Toolbox to easily, effectively and enjoyably implement these non-intrusive tools into your work environment please contact us at or +46 708 736 375.

About The Author


I am fascinated with what makes us humans ”tick”, especially when it comes to how we consciously communicate and express ourselves with our body language. My business background is in international sales and sales management, selling everything from automobile tires in Houston, Tx, to retail banking delivery systems in 20 countries. I have graduated from CoachU’s 3 year Coach Training program, been certified as an Extended DISC consultant and become a Certified International Body Harmony Teacher with over 20 years of ”hands-on” experience in bodywork. This rich and varied background combined with over 20 years of being an entrepreneur has blessed me with insights and experiences I never would have noticed in the corporate world. Mainstream business now seems to be waking up to the riches available from more conscious and responsible business practices. Expanding Understanding’s Sensational Soft Skills Toolbox , the books I have written and training I have developed now provide savvy decision makers and their colleagues measurable results and a more restful night's sleep. These tools provide an edge in consciously understanding, deliberately using and profiting from the most powerful communication tool available, our bodies. I look forward to meeting you on this path to mastery in non verbal communication.

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