Senseless or Sensational, Your future; your choice By Kurt Larsson

Senseless or Sensational, Your future; your choice, By Kurt Larsson

Fist and palm - Version 2Becoming sensational and daring to use your senses makes much more sense than the non-sense of being senseless. That is if you have the common sense left to really sense what it means to be human.

The bloodbath at the African Shopping Mall is just the latest in a long list of ”senseless” killing sprees. It seems everyday some news article references another ”senseless crime”. Common sense would seem suggest that we could actually use this trend as a barometer for the desensitization of our society. Yet, have we become so apathetic that we can’t even connect the dots to see how our behavior is leading us in the wrong and senseless direction? Everywhere you look it seems we are consciously or unconsciously trying to collectively desensitize ourselves to allow us to more objectively manage our reality. Should we really expect anything else?

When managing a situation it is essential that you sense (as in measure) what is happening and then react accordingly keeping your feelings to a minimum. Yet, what if that which actually defines us as human is our ability to sense (as in feel), coupled with our ability to respond?

  • Have you become an expert at analyzing situations rather than sensing what is happening to the people involved?
  • Do you prefer dialogue and asking questions to learn more or debate defending your point of view at all costs?
  • Do you regularly take medication for headaches, stomach aches, muscle aches or anxiety rather than discovering the root cause of the pain and eliminating it once and for all?
  • Do you collapse at night in front of the TV or a computer game or retreat to your man cave to shut out the world and recharge your batteries?
  • Do you first discuss the consequences with those involved before taking a decision?
  • How many questions do you ask per day and do the people answering feel seen, heard and understood from your ability to listen?
  • Have you ever uttered the phrase, “it’s just business” to distance yourself from some sort of human suffering or inconvenience to yourself or another?

 

There are at least three definitions to the word ”sense”. The first describes sensing as an accurate form of measurement; for instance to sense the temperature change in a given room or to sense movement in a highly secured environment. The other means to to feel or intuit what is going on either physically or emotionally within our own and other’s human bodies. A third alternative is that it can also can refer to our wits or ”common sense”. Common sense can also imply some sort of an inner balance or harmony.

Yet,the more we try to become ”cold and calculating”, ”Steely eyed” cold hearted, or any other metaphor for becoming more successfully desensitized the more we lose the properties and qualities that make us human. Also, the more some of us become imbalanced and capable of doing horrible, psychopathic and even evil deeds. The added lack of outrage from the rest of us doesn’t seem to help. Add to that more and more evidence is being uncovered suggesting that there is big money to be made and lots of control to be taken by suppressing our ability to sense. Where would, for instance, the military, movie, advertising and pharmaceutical industries be without senseless people in key positions of authority and an increasingly desensitized population preoccupied with  computer games, soap operas or the latest fad on a social network?
Think for yourself, could their be a connection between for instance:

  • The increase of violent computer games and the number of teenagers violently attacking their schools and universities?
  • The increased use of emotion deadening and mind altering drugs and the increase of public massacres such as in Finland, Colorado, and Connecticut?
  • Our rigid, top down, school systems and our students’ meek reluctance to question authority?
  • Our fast food culture and the growing problem of obesity?
  • The amount of violence on TV and our disinterest in how many violent outbursts that are currently going on around the world?

 

There are many more examples, but how much of the above and other situations are aided and supported by our lack being able to feel deeply enough to engage ourselves in change? It seems that as long as we continue to be distracted by our technological toys and stay in the world of abstraction they create, the more we can count on that all these senseless situations shall continue and remain, at best, nothing more than entertainment.

The challenge of course is that learning to sense what is going on around you will probably unlock the whole spectrum of feelings from joy to total despair. Yet, what if the only way to fundamentally feel better and express yourself more is to get back in touch with your senses and feelings? Could it possibly help to avoid many of the technological distractions and abstractions we now habitually use?

We may have gone so far in this de-sensitization process that for many it will be hard or impossible to return to a “feeling” world. Some of you may even be taking medication to help combat the senses and feelings that come up when you don’t. For many, senseless has become the chosen path as there are so many skeletons in their closets that it “feels” safer to let those old sleeping dogs lie. Just take another pill and feel better…

On the other side, you who are reading this may have already experienced the utility of being more sensitive or you may just be tired of not feeling anything. The questions are how do you really feel and much fun are you having?

Body Harmony is a “hands-on” bodywork technology that can gently help you regain a broader and deeper sense (as in feeling) of yourself and others. Although not foolproof, one or more sessions with an authorized Body Harmony Practitioner will help you uncover and release a lot of this energy that may be keeping you from being the best you can be. For more information please click here.

If you are in Stockholm (and read Swedish) you are welcome to join us at a Body Harmony Evening here.

Coming up in Part II

Methods to help you to rekindle and develop your senses.

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©2013 Kurt Larsson

About The Author

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I am fascinated with what makes us humans ”tick”, especially when it comes to how we consciously communicate and express ourselves with our body language. My business background is in international sales and sales management, selling everything from automobile tires in Houston, Tx, to retail banking delivery systems in 20 countries. I have graduated from CoachU’s 3 year Coach Training program, been certified as an Extended DISC consultant and become a Certified International Body Harmony Teacher with over 20 years of ”hands-on” experience in bodywork. This rich and varied background combined with over 20 years of being an entrepreneur has blessed me with insights and experiences I never would have noticed in the corporate world. Mainstream business now seems to be waking up to the riches available from more conscious and responsible business practices. Expanding Understanding’s Sensational Soft Skills Toolbox , the books I have written and training I have developed now provide savvy decision makers and their colleagues measurable results and a more restful night's sleep. These tools provide an edge in consciously understanding, deliberately using and profiting from the most powerful communication tool available, our bodies. I look forward to meeting you on this path to mastery in non verbal communication.

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