Body Language and The Posture of Success

Can your success be influenced by your body language?

iStock_000020043227XSmallThe focus for the next few posts will be on the influence of body posture on your communication skills and ability lead others. Posture literally means ”position of the body” and what if how you position yours can really influence what and how you communicate with others?

First of all, you are encouraged to ask yourself how often you actually take a conscious inventory of your body’s posture.

  • How often do you look in the mirror and actually observe what others are seeing when they look at you?
  • How often do you really experience where in your body you feel good and attractive and where you experience pain or discomfort?

For many, this can be such a scary thought that getting to this important first step never happens. What if this explains why actors make so much money? Much of what they portray comes from how they hold themselves on stage and in front of the camera. They know exactly the message they want their bodies to transmit and are not afraid to experiment until they get it right. This is also the reason that most successful politicians and business leaders have had some form of Body Language coaching. It has been said that up to 93% of our communication is non-verbal, yet how much focus do we put on our bodies and how much on our words?

From now on, when you see a known, successful person on TV or in the media, pay close attention to their body language. Chances are that the ones you are most attracted to and would consider trusting have their backs relatively vertical, their heads up, their chests open and they are smiling, just for starters.

Compare these images to the latest victims in the world, be they in a flood zone, or under a crushing amount of debt, or have been violently treated, chances are they will be looking sad, their backs will be bowed over and their heads hanging low. Just looking at your fellow human beings when you are about town can be a rude awakening. Especially if you are riding a buss or a train, look around you and notice the level of life and inspiration. How many of your fellow passengers are sitting upright, smiling and breathing in more air then needed just to survive to the next breath? How many of them would you change places with?

Which of these type postures are you most attracted to?

More importantly, which group does your body language most resemble?

From this point you now have a choice… To train yourself by default to be small by enforcing the posture of a victim or to support yourself and your goals by consciously training your body to reflect success.

Although it is much more effective to get someone to coach you in presenting and using your body’s language as a communication tool, you can accomplish miracles on your own.  All you need is your body, some curiosity and some extra time. A full length mirror to stand in front of is a definite plus.

Starting from the ground up, here are some body language issues to reflect upon:

  • First of all, how do you feet contact mother earth?
  • Are your toes bunched up and tense or spread out and relaxed?
  • Do you feel “planted” with the soles of your feet contacting the ground evenly?
  • Are they soft and receiving or are your feet tense and uncomfortable?
  • Is your body weight evenly distributed over both feet, legs and hips or are you leaning on one foot or the other?
  • Are your feet aligned and parallel with each other pointing in a distinct direction or are does it look like your two feet are on their way to two different places?

Remember, these are just some observations regarding your feet!
Now multiply this by the rest of your body and you may begin to appreciate the amount of body language is available to all who are open to observing it and sensing it. Consciously or unconsciously, what if all of this information and so much more can be seen and felt by those you come in contact with?

Just like an electrical connection the cleaner and less resistance there is in the circuit (between you and ground) the more power will be available for you to to use. The big trick here is to observe how you normally stand, feel how that sits in your body, then adjust something (for instance your contact with ground or how your feet are aligned with your body) and observe and experience how it feels once more. The biggest clue is, if it feels more grounded it is probably going to be more powerful, effective and make you look better too.

Should you not have a mirror handy or you happen to be around other people. Observe different people and their postures. Decide first which you are attracted to and which you are not, then copy these postures and really notice what it feels like to use your body in that way. Should you experience patterns that look and feel powerful, note them and begin practicing them. Also notice what new things or people you begin attracting into your life just by making this little change.
Could there be a correlation here?

The biggest part of this whole process is your recognition of that it is your choice to hold your body how you will. Should you accept it, just this one AHA is worth its weight in your future success. If you find this hard to believe, then just take another look around where you are and see if you can sense how many people you are looking at are consciously aware of their posture here and now.

Congratulations, just doing this puts you in a class of distinction, a class of leaders!

 

About The Author

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I am fascinated with what makes us humans ”tick”, especially when it comes to how we consciously communicate and express ourselves with our body language. My business background is in international sales and sales management, selling everything from automobile tires in Houston, Tx, to retail banking delivery systems in 20 countries. I have graduated from CoachU’s 3 year Coach Training program, been certified as an Extended DISC consultant and become a Certified International Body Harmony Teacher with over 20 years of ”hands-on” experience in bodywork. This rich and varied background combined with over 20 years of being an entrepreneur has blessed me with insights and experiences I never would have noticed in the corporate world. Mainstream business now seems to be waking up to the riches available from more conscious and responsible business practices. Expanding Understanding’s Sensational Soft Skills Toolbox , the books I have written and training I have developed now provide savvy decision makers and their colleagues measurable results and a more restful night's sleep. These tools provide an edge in consciously understanding, deliberately using and profiting from the most powerful communication tool available, our bodies. I look forward to meeting you on this path to mastery in non verbal communication.

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